"I gave a speech on bisexual health at a medical association conference a few years ago. One of the attendees, who is a mental health professional — he’s a therapist — wasn’t at my talk, but when he heard the topic of my speech, he told me, 'Oh, when I have clients who say they’re bi, I really question it. I really make them talk it through, and we examine it very closely.'

I said, 'What if they say they’re gay?' He was gay, by the way.

He said, 'Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for.'"

Amy Andre in Nothing About Us Without Us from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)

It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.

This is a fucking therapist, a man in charge of helping people overcome mental health issues and trauma, admitting freely that he and his colleagues treat bisexuality as if it is a mental health problem and a symptom of mental disturbance to be treated and cured.

He is telling a bi woman that he doesn’t treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.

It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.

This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.

So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge takes Freud a little too seriously and/or believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combatting to biphobia-deniers.

And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?

Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about.

(via a-little-bi-furious)

(via queersamwilson)

pervocracy:

postwhitesociety:

hm

I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:
1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear.  ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me?  So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”
2) Women not having cheat codes.  ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me.  I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me.  Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”
3) Women not being a hive mind.  ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles.  Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all.  Make up your mind, women!”
4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”

pervocracy:

postwhitesociety:

hm

I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:

1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear.  ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me?  So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”

2) Women not having cheat codes.  ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me.  I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me.  Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”

3) Women not being a hive mind.  ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles.  Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all.  Make up your mind, women!”

4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”

(Source: ethiopienne, via radsocfem)

keyofnik:

Original wedding ask! I will answer this one no better.

By “the Outers”, in my mind you basically mean Haruka and Michiru. I haven’t yet met post-horrible life Hotaru so I don’t know her personality (*cough*whateverchibiusawants*cough*) and Setsuna doesn’t dream of weddings since the Silver Millennium fell.

So Haruka and Michiru then!

You might think Haruka doesn’t care much and Michiru is the one who’s all into the details (again, mentally going Western-style here because I am marginally less ignorant about this), but the reverse is actually true. Michiru is fine with a bit of a fuss, but she doesn’t need it, she doesn’t particularly care if she gets it. So long as Haruka — and Setsuna and Hotaru (Hotaru as a flower girl you guys omg) are there, she can take or leave the rest.

But Haruka.

Oh Haruka.

You know how I mentioned that Minako wanted a Charles and Diana-style ridiculous over the top the-whole-country-stops British Royals wedding? But she’d never get it?

HARUKA WANTS THIS TOO, BUT SHE JUST MIGHT.

She can’t stop throwing in more details. Every time she turns around, there’s something new she wants. Coordinated parachuters and sky writing, and a full philharmonic orchestra, and an ice sculpture no three ice sculptures no THE WHOLE CATHEDRAL MADE OF ICE, and a thousand white doves, and there’ll be a parade through Shibuya with twenty elephants and a hundred horses, and we’ll fly off in a FLEET of helicopters, and and and.

The girls do not help with this, as they keep throwing out everything they can think of, and Haruka is made of wedding-themed superglue and she just snatches it all.

She’s getting married.

SHE AND MICHIRU ARE GETTING MARRIED AND THE WORLD CANNOT DOUBT THEIR LOVE

Aaaaaand then Michiru brings her back down to Earth.

They wind up somewhere in the middle, and by “in the middle” I mean that if Michiru is a one and Haurka is a ONE MILLION, the wedding winds up at a five.

There are a few doves, and TWO ice sculptures, and they do indeed leave for their honeymoon in a helicopter. Haruka’s happy with that. In her mind, all the rest is still happening.

raptorific:

Fun game for ladies: In front of a geeky dude, say “Silence, Earthling! My name is Darth Vader! I am an extraterrestrial from the planet Vulcan!”

If he gets all mad, condescendingly explains to you why you’re wrong, or starts talking about that “fake geek girl” nonsense, not only do you know that you should stay far, far away from him, but you also get to tell him he’s one to talk about people not having enough nerd cred

Because you just watched a “Back to the Future” reference fly straight over his head

(via rose-de-noire)

faehui:

"Usagi, I named you after the bravest person I know. Me."

- Usagi to Chibi Usagi probably

(via airyairyquitecontrary)

orcapie:

Happy anniversary, Cecil and Carlos!! <3

(And to get embarrassingly personal for a minute, I almost didn’t post this because the Cecilos anniversary feels like a weird anniversary for me too? First Date was the episode where I first caught up, and the year since has been pretty much a rollercoaster ride of me accepting that I’m a lesbian and attempting to work through that. These guys and their healthy, normalised, happy relationship are the one thing helping me keep it together while I’m trapped in the closet right now - along with the amazing folk I’ve met because of them, you know who you are!! All right, ramble over. I’ve just had so many ~feelings lately about how important this podcast is to me as a gay girl. Yeah.)

notunlikepride:

WTNV Twitter + Space

(Source: itsafckingsnickersbar)

DO NOT GET ANGRY AT WTNV FOR WHAT HAPPENED AT DASHCON.

goddamnitdean:

I repeat. Do not hate on Welcome to Night Vale for cancelling their show at Dashcon.

We’re all upset. I understand. I sat around outside the door so I could be first in the general admissions line to get in for over 2 hours, when I could have slept more or gone to another panel or just hang out with my friends (one of which flew all the way from fucking South Korea, a 32 hour trip to get here). I sat in that room for an hour just for Roxanne to come up on stage and tell us they weren’t coming.

It wasn’t Joseph Fink’s fault. It wasn’t Jeffery Cranor’s fault. It wasn’t Cecil Baldwin’s fault. Do not send them or any of the Night Vale crew any hate, please.

The only fault lies with Dashcon’s staff, particularly the admins. They are the ones who are practicing bad business. They are the ones who have already proven that they cannot manage their money.

You are supposed to pay artists and performers upfront. Not all performers request this, but WTNV did and Dashcon should have been able to do so. It’s not an unusual business practice. And you have to remember: WTNV only exists through donations and sales of their merch. They produce their podcasts for free. All they asked from Dashcon was their travel and hotel expenses comped. Any other live show is the same way: admission pays for travel, and any extra helps them do more with the show.

The fans got screwed by Dashcon, not WTNV. The part of the admission and priority seats that should have gone toward the show was kept by Dashcon staff. Now everyone in the WTNV live show crew have to pay for their flights, hotel, etc. to Schaumburg out of pocket.

DO NOT HATE IN WTNV. HATE ON DASHCON. They are the ones that hold the blame.

Tags: wtnv dashcon

"If you blame Native American communities for their poverty, remember that the entire continent was stolen from them.

If you blame Black American communities for their relative poverty, remember that Black Americans were stolen from a continent, trafficked, and enslaved for nearly 300 years.

Tell me again about how your family ‘started from nothing’ when they immigrated. Didn’t they start from whiteness? Seems like a pretty good start.

The American Dream required dual genocides, but tell me again about fairness and equal opportunity. Tell me about democracy, modeled after the Iroquois Confederacy. Tell me your proud heritage, and I will show you the violence that made it so."

Kim Katrin Crosby, Keynote Speaker for LGBTQ History Month at Dartmouth, on September 30, 2013 (via khaamosh)

(Source: biggreenmicroaggressions, via muneebb)

keyofnik:

I have deep affection for how all of Usagi’s wishes involve the willful absence of school.

I have more deep affection for how all the things she’s wishing for will in fact come true.

I have the greatest affection of all for how she still has to go to school anyway.

nyalesy:

when tumblr gets to make up a headcanon for a character with no canon appearance its always skinny white dude with blonde hair and glasses in a dress shirt with a tie

cecil and wheatley look exactly the same

(via glompcat)

we are starving

lesroisdumonde:

"oh my GOd there are TWO gay characters in this movie lets watch it"

"dude dude dude we have to see it it has a queer girl

"I heard this movie has non-sexualized female character”

"ok I know it only has one girl but she is written like an ACTUAL PERSON!!"

"THERE IS A TRANS CHARACTER"

"so its not canon but if you squint I think this character is asexual”

"and get this the gay character is actually not white

(Source: theeveningtide, via glompcat)

kateordie:

queenofthecute:

@astrogyaru said:carlos +15”

I guess Carlos’ dream journal got a bit poetic and surreal there for a while.

I swear, WtNV has the best fan art.

(via fivebrights)

sirida:

"I’m no expert, but I don’t remember this character having a cape made of the hide of his enemies. … It’s not real skin, is it?"

"Of course not, Carlos, don’t be silly. We’re not barbarians."

oppressionisntrad:

agenderdefender:

megasumpex:

4chancounterspam:

Everyone, the spam isn’t over.
/b/ is planning to keep spamming, and they’re taking it to a personal level. Be super careful when tagging your selfies!!!

4chan confirmed for literal Shit

this is terrifying please take caution

if someone does this to you DO NOT SAY ANYTHING TO THEM. dont post about, dont say anything that would hint to the fact that you know about it.write down the post url, the blog url, the photo link, and any other information you have.then take it directly to the police.they can get arrested for defemation/slander, harassment, sexual harassment, and even pedophilia if youre a minor.if they know you know theyll likely delete it before anything can be done.someone did this to me when i was 14, by a 43 year old man from 4chan, and he edited it so i appeared to be nude and performing oral sex, and he was arrested for it.once one of them gets arrested/in legal trouble theyll all stop.

oppressionisntrad:

agenderdefender:

megasumpex:

4chancounterspam:

Everyone, the spam isn’t over.

/b/ is planning to keep spamming, and they’re taking it to a personal level. Be super careful when tagging your selfies!!!

4chan confirmed for literal Shit

this is terrifying please take caution

if someone does this to you DO NOT SAY ANYTHING TO THEM. dont post about, dont say anything that would hint to the fact that you know about it.
write down the post url, the blog url, the photo link, and any other information you have.
then take it directly to the police.
they can get arrested for defemation/slander, harassment, sexual harassment, and even pedophilia if youre a minor.
if they know you know theyll likely delete it before anything can be done.
someone did this to me when i was 14, by a 43 year old man from 4chan, and he edited it so i appeared to be nude and performing oral sex, and he was arrested for it.
once one of them gets arrested/in legal trouble theyll all stop.

(Source: , via hialmberi)